Several of my friends have asked to write this; so, for them, here it is:
One definition of glamour is as follows:
- An air of compelling charm, romance, and excitement, especially when delusively alluring.
- Archaic. A magic spell; enchantment.
Here is a one definition of stealth:
- The act of moving, proceeding, or acting in a covert way.
- The quality or characteristic of being furtive or covert.
- Archaic. The act of stealing.
- Not disclosing one's true ideology, affiliations, or positions: a stealth candidate.
- Having or providing the ability to prevent detection by radar: a stealth bomber; stealth technology.
Stealth glamour is – for me – the female controlled and carefully and deliberately directed result(s) of raw glamour which is obviously and intentionally employed/deployed and she has nearly full control over who it is observed by. Observation of or the full effect(s) of such employed stealth glamour by anyone she does NOT want it to be seen by is purely not by her intent or design and in fact she has probably gone out of her way to make it a lot less likely to happen.
Stealth glamour might be properly compared to – but is NOT really the same thing to me as - traditional erotic female displays. Erotic is more plainly displayed even if it is less obvious than standard glamour in achieving essentially the same results. Yes, stealth glamour may indeed be erotic in nature, but it is NOT ONLY erotic by design.
The human female living in US society must accept the fact that human sex drives and impulses have been carefully and systematically studied and that the US society has been literally programmed by the mass media as to how to achieve various sexual and/or associated effects by teaching and then creating, marketing, and supplying all the means necessary to the general public to achieve said glamorous and at least implied sexual effects on the well studied “average male” in US society. This IS down literally “to a science” and it just comes down to her choice of when, where, and how to employ it to support achieving her goal(s).
Human females quickly learn that employing glamour effectively DOES have a significant effect on getting them attention from males...but that if it is employed in a direct manner that said female has really very little control over WHO among the males is affected and that can lead to a lot of UNWANTED attention from males she does NOT want to attract ANY attention from.
The astute female who wishes to maximize her attention from SPECIFIC males is of course interested in how to do so so that ONLY those specific males get the FULL effect while others are not very stimulated and thus are less likely to make unwanted advances directed at her. And she must do it in public spaces like workplace offices, shops, and bookstores, to name a few possible places. Really, wherever her life happens is where she needs to be able to deploy stealth glamour to get her noticed by a particular guy she wants to encourage to notice her. AND, REMEMBER noticing her. In a Ladylike and probably erotic way........
I will now turn to very few random examples of what I see as being “stealth glamour” in-action:
Moot-point Stealth Glamour: Yes, a trench-coat over almost nothing, etc, has been done and has been known to be a successful stealth glamour event. But this really belongs in the pure fetish category as it’s clearly NOT what you’re going to wear to work, to the office, or out-in-the-general-population. If you do, that’s some other article. Not this one.
Hosiery: Ladies who want to work the “leg effect” but be discreet and not have it have a lot of “range” know what to do about things like nylons to get that effect working strongly. Sure, you can wear the shear black with a black-line-up-the-back silk stockings under a shorter length skirt to the formal company Christmas party....and doing so WILL get noticed even across a room...but obviously doing the same thing walking through the city and into the office for a normal day will NOT likely work as a Lady might hope. What to do? Consider using the SAME exact stocking but instead in a near nude shade with an associated MUCH lighter line going up the back of the stockings. She CAN wear these down the street and into the office and only someone looking very closely will notice they are not plain...and they are reminiscent of those she wore at the Company Christmas party....ooo lah lah! When the intended guy looks – at closer range if for no other reason than you work in the same general area – he WILL notice and when she notices him noticing THAT’s when she looks over her shoulder – pauses very slightly – and gives a slight knowing smile then turns and continues on her way. FULL effect achieved and on a specific target with no one else the wiser!
Lipstick: Only women can successfully wear lipstick and therefore it’s permanently feminine and erotic. The continual favorite reds and pinks are that way because they WORK really well. Men only care mainly about how female lips LOOK. Females get all hung up on taste, smell, etc., which are all good points, but remember it is the LOOK that matters mainly to the majority of men. Getting this to work in a stealth mode is not really all that hard. First, put on a matte finish primary shade which will “take” a high gloss topcoat and “work”. She wears the matte (say) pink as she goes through public spaces where no extra attention is wanted. It matches her overall look so she looks like she’s “put together” and “matched” and THAT coat is meant to last so she’s not messing around touching it up all day long. When it’s time to get the glam going it’s no harder than “tah daa!” applying glosser over the already there lipstick thus turning her mouth into a flashing, shimmering “look at me” display. When this is working REALLY well the man will appear to be literally trying to “read her lips” and she’s got to work at keeping a straight face so he doesn’t “snap out of it” and quit literally “hanging on her every word”. Most glossers wear off annoyingly fast...but in the stealth glamour mode this is NOT a liability as she does NOT want extra attention from everyone, just the one she’s interested in.
The almost flesh tone colors that a few celebrities have learned to wear can work almost like magic. I don’t know why that surprises me like it does. Perhaps it’s because it at first seems there’s nothing “standing out” so you tend to keep looking longer or multiple times as there IS something there that’s catching your attention! Then it suddenly is apparent there IS lipstick there......
Exactly one time I actually asked a women how she got her lips to look like they did. It turned out ALL there was there was a glosser product over her bare lips! What a lucky girl she was! She was able to avoid the entire issue of “it looks different in the tube than it does on my lips” with just a single product and get the full effect!
If you’re going to get kissed...that’s the time to add some flavored stuff in. I suspect someone in the Beatles penned “Strawberry Fields Forever” after a really erotic event with someone employing strawberry flavored lipstick. It’s now nearly permanently immortalized in song.....getting the point here?
Footwear: Men are pretrained by years of mass media exposure to at least initially see women wearing stiletto’s as being the most desirable, most interesting, and most successful women in nearly any scene. Just look at Hollywood glamour as seen ON THE MOVIE SCREEN to see just what men are trained to be really responsive to. She again does NOT want extra attention from just everyone so chooses flats in a non-shiny finish to get her to where she is going. When she wants to get the full glamour effect she just switches her flats for some patent leather stilettos and just wears them where the effect(s) of doing so will likely produce the desired results in the intended audience. Really advanced users learn how to causally swing one of these stilettos off of their toes in a lazy manner while sitting...similar to how a lure is “played’ in front of a fish. She needs not worry, he WILL notice and he WILL remember her doing this.
I note with interest the non-stigmatized “flesh tone” or “putty” colored patent leather stilettos. Ladies often feel there are STRONG connotations attached to white and red patent leather stilettos...and that the black ones can either be too formal or have too strong an effect to dare try in stealth mode. “Putty” colored ones have NO implied stigma attached to them – can work amazingly well as erotic thought inducing devices – and can be often worn as part of “normal office attire” without generating too much unwanted attention. The neutral color also matches well with more wardrobe items.
Jewelry: If is of course a bit too much to be trying low necklines and such in most settings. Instead she might try a much more gently but still there plunging neckline that does not show much of her cleavage and/or breasts. Here’s a case where “less is more” applies and by that I mean less skin and MORE coverage. Adding a necklace to this with the charm dipping slightly BELOW the neckline will at most be seen as mildly interesting but will mean nothing to most men. When the “right” man is looking....she casually and seemingly in a mildly distracting manner just puts one of her fingers on one side of the chain and gently pushes it up...which raises the charm above the dress...and then just as casually lets it slide back down. She doesn’t react at all when he is seen to – finally – raise his eyes back up to meet hers and the effect is just one of a sweet girl playing with a charm and waiting intently with a charming smile for the stupidly staring man to say something to her. Let him wonder what THAT was about.....maybe he’ll come back around and that will finally start the first official “conversation”?
I’ve seen Ladies use very dainty chains with charms on them around their ankles. This works well at gaining initial attention and making them stand right out in a crowd without being them seeming to be real blatant about it. It would seem to be well suited to being used just below a pair of slacks. Cross your legs, shift them a little, and the chain “sticks out”.
There are many such things that women have access to and can choose to employ to get similar effects.
If it gets her through the masses pretty much unnoticed and relatively unscathed and then gets employed somehow to get the intense attention of her intended audience...it may be a stealth glamour event.
It is a fact that the most effect is often gotten with intermittent displays. Thus, this kind of stuff happens just often enough to make it worth watching for, but in a way that is unpredictable and thus really mysterious to the watchers. If there really appears to be “no rhyme or reason” to the pattern....that’s about right. This is true for both the married and unmarried women.
Some may call this kind of thing manipulative and it just may be true. My point is this: What’s your point? OF COURSE it’s manipulative and the ONLY reason there is for being annoyed with it is that it is NOT your lucky day to be the recipient of some stealth glamour!